Just (Be) Cause....

Have you ever seen a commercial and all of a sudden you start thinking about something near and dear to your heart? Well my Lovelies, I saw a commercial that made me remember something.  

I wanted to talk about cause and effect with you.

Yeah. Cause and Effect. I remember when I smoked there was always  some, “thing,” that caused me to want to light up.  Somebody or something was always getting on my nerves. I needed to smoke to calm down, or because I ate, or I wanted to smoke just to be by myself and think.

When I look back over those times, rarely do I remember what the root and real cause of my discomfort was. I do however remember how I called myself handling the situations.

I share all of this to say that is any of what makes you smoke really worth it?

Let’s look at it this way;

1.      (Be) Cause: Somebody dinged your car + You get upset = You smoke.
2.      (Be) Cause:  Your S/O forgot to pay a bill and a utility got cut off + You get upset = You smoke
3.      (Be) Cause:  You’re hanging out with friends having a few cocktails + you’re feeling good = You smoke

Now watch this – The Effect is now you have a breathing problem, that is the result of your smoking.

Stay with me now.

1.      Because somebody dinged your car, you now have a problem breathing.
2.      Because your S/O didn’t pay a bill and a utility got cut off you now have a problem breathing.
3.      And because you were having cocktails and feeling no pain you now have a problem breathing.

You get the gist. None of that makes any sense but there was a cause, and there was an effect.

The other thing I want to share from this, is that at some point we have to (yeah this includes me even though I don’t smoke anymore) really examine our triggers, i.e., those emotions that cause us to be impulsive with how we react to what happens to us, and how fast we move to handle things that happen to us without first handling ourselves.

As a part of our staying Quit it’s very important that we get comfortable with examining our emotions and sit with them for as long as we can in order to help identify the root cause that needs to be healed or addressed.

See my Lovelies when we were babies and we (emotion) cried it wasn’t a cigarette that made us comfy when we were (cause) hungry. We got a bottle! Follow me? Most of us as children were able to get our emotional needs me without a cigarette. So that stands to reason that WHAT???

Let's say it all together now??!!!

"We can still even as adults get our emotional

needs met without smoking."

You know I never mentioned what commercial it was that I saw. It was the commercial where the woman died from smoking. The commercial reminded me of all of you out there. Doesn't matter where you are on your Quit journey. as long as you don't give up trying. No judgment. Helping my Lovelies who read this blog is what was near and dear to my heart.

Listen we all have to go but I don’t want to die that way and I don’t want my Lovelies to die that way either.

Because Baby, it’s just not SEXY!!!

And that’s what we want. To Be Smokeless & Sexy

Wooooo Hooo!!

Until next time-Stay Strong!!

Sending Hugs, Love, and Healing Energy to the World

(For those who are open to receive it.)

One Human Love
Obi

Knowing others is intelligence; Knowing yourself is true wisdom."
"Mastering others is strength; Mastering yourself is true power.

”Lao Tzu ~ The Tao Te Ching
MQM:CT MQD:10.27.2011:12:01:AM QBG:PROUD MEMBER, "ROCKTOBERS '11 !!"

 
Peace, Love, & Freedom to My Rocktober Family where-ever in the world you may be.
To Everyone thinking about Quitting and to those early on in their Quit, take it one day at a time, my lovelies!!

 

 You CAN do it!!

 

"We're Bringin' Smokeless Baaack!"

(to Justin Timberlake's, SexyBack..)

 "SEXY & NicoFree" 

"Not One Puff Evah, Baby!!!"

 

MAKING "HEAD"WAY

 

Everything we do, or don't do, starts in our heads. Everything.

 

What did you think this post was about?? Hmm?? FRESHY!!  Tsk, Tsk, Tsk!!!

 

The fact that I sat down and started typing on this blog, started in my head. No foolin'!!

 

I realized that I hadn't reached out in a while, and the thought lingered with my hamsters (pet name for my brain), a we bit longer than it should have. So, I did something about it. Hence the tap, tap, tap sound on the keyboard.

 

I wanted to reach out today to remind everyone that it's never too late to Quit. NEVER.

 

The reason why I share this, is that some people may get in their heads that since they've tried so many times, and not succeeded that it's not supposed to happen for them.

 

Guess what my Lovelies? I call BULLSH#T on that type of thinking.

 

At some point there has to be something inside you, that wants to Quit more than anything else.It doesn't have to be this monumental declaration of what you want to do. You can keep it to yourself.

 

You don't have to etch it in stone. All you have to do is decide. After you decide, then plan.

 

Plan your Quit in your head, and then start the process of actually planning it. Listen. If people can plan surgeries, cruises, weddings, and parties, YOU can plan your Quit.

 

There is an example of how to do this on this blog. Just go through the earlier posts and you will find it.

 

My Lovelies I wasn't always Quit. I did not get up one morning and BAM!! No more nicotine.  

It was a very painful process that I did not get over, but got THROUGH!

 

You and I aren't really that different. How do I know that? Darlin' if you cut me, I promise you, I will bleed. See? We're practically cousins!! I say all that to share, that if I can Quit and Stay Quit, I have faith that if you keep trying and don't give up on YOU, then eventually YOU will make it.

 

Until next time-Stay Strong!!

 

Hugs, Love, and Healing Energy to the World (for those who are
open to receive it.)
One Human Love

Obi

 

Peace, Love, & Freedom to My Rocktober Family where-ever in the world you may be.
To Everyone thinking about Quitting and to those early on in their Quit, take it one day at a time, my lovelies!!

 

You CAN do it!!

"We're Bringin' Smokeless Baaack!"

(to Justin Timberlake's, SexyBack..)

"SEXY & NicoFree" 

"Not One Puff Evah, Baby!!!"

Still Smoke Free & Sexy... :o)

It's been a long time, but I am happy to report that I am still Smoke Free and Sexy.

So much has happened since the last time I wrote. Each time I wanted to sit down and blog about my progress, something strange would happen and I would put it off. I am taking this time right nowto write and share. I may be adding more to this post,but I just wanted to get it in today, because 
 August 27, 2012, is my 10th Month Smoke Free Anniversary!

Yeah, Baby!!
*smile*

Where the hell has the time gone? Is it me or has time just put on some sneakers and sprinted? In two months, it will be a whole year that I haven't smoked (Lord Willing).

Soooo where do I begin?

Let's see. I did a liquid cleanse for three days last month. Made me feel totally awesome.
The fast was the thing that made me feel clean on the inside. It was as if there may have been some
residue inside (probably in my mind) and the cleanse just flushed it out. I might share the information on the cleanse in another post as I'm not sure about hyping products in this blog.

Anyway, I started walking again. I lost 10 pounds last time I checked. That wasn't the goal, but that
is what happened. I stopped eating meat. I only eat fish when I want to get some protein. I've increased my fruit and veggie intake considerably.

One of the things that has challenged me since I last wrote, is the condition of my family member
who has stage 4 breast cancer, who I wrote about back in May. Her condition has worsened.
We keep praying. We keep hoping. She is still with us. She has good days and challenging days.
Watching my loved one deal with this situation, is a challenge as one of my major triggers is
separation and loss. When I leave from seeing her, I am tempted to smoke because I feel the need to center and think deeply, like almost go into a trance. I don't want to smoke, but the stress from a lot of things I can't go into, is really pressing upon me.

The desire has been so strong for me at one point that I started having dreams that I was smoking.
I actually had several dreams, not just one. One of them was so real, that when I woke up, I could have sworn that I could smell smoke in my nostrils. I even felt the heaviness in my chest that comes with smoking. Like I shared earlier, I am dealing with the triggers on a daily basis. But my situation is NOTHING like what my family member is going through so I keep perspective and keep moving forward.

I take it one day at a time. Nothing more, nothing less.

To my folks who haven't quit, but whom are thinking about quitting, don't give up. When you are ready, you will quit. Just keep thinking about it. We become what we think about most. You can become a Quitter if you really want to. *wink*. I'm rootin' for ya and  remember, I'm dealing with My Quit, One Day at A Time right along with you, if you decide to join us, who have already quit.

To my Rocktober Family, wherever in the world you may be, Huge Huggz!! :o)

Hugs, Love, and Healing Energy to the World (for those who are open to receive it.)

Love & Peace,
Obi